I am so sick of hearing people say:
My ex boyfriend did this, or didn’t do enough of that.
All the guys around here are players, my job sucks, my wife sucks, my husband doesn’t help, my kids are needy…I am tired, I am broke, I am fat, I am unhappy.
I have been a magnet for these people and conversations lately. And I just sit, quietly and say nothing….I hold space. I don’t side with anything or anyone…there is no wrong or right.
And the people who tell me stories just to get me to agree with them, so they can feel like, “Yeah, See! Im right! Right?” No thank you.
Change your thinking. Change your mind.
Create the world that you want to live in instead of always seeing people as lacking or not enough…because when you create them as lacking, or not enough…that is how they are gonna show up! When you create yourself as poor, or your job as lame, or your partner as draining…You are painting a picture for your future…and then you wonder why your shit keeps sucking?
I mean I just went to dinner with a friend, and was sharing a story from the past, that involved an ex boyfriend, and I described him as freaking awesome! He is awesome! Did we get married and live happily ever after? No. It didn’t work out that way… But why on earth would I create an ex boyfriend of mine, as sucking? Do I date sucky people? No. I date awesome people. And I am proud to say, that I am friends with every guy I have ever dated, (except one that never talked to me again, but thats ok…I still send him love.) You get it? Do you see what I am saying here?
Is this post a bit like, rarrrrrr? Is it annoying? I don’t know, maybe you have people like this in your life? Or maybe you are someone who says similar things to friends? Complains a lot? Likes to gossip? You are perfect. Don’t you worry, you are, but if you want the key to being freaking psyched on life: Being love has no time for anything else but being love. A great life, has no time for anything else, but being a great life. You dont need anything or anyone to get in on that. You have everything you need.
Let me just say…I am no expert, I am still very much a student in all of the above, and I too need reminding often. My life isn’t perfect everyday, but you know what, it is. Even when I hit a “low” point, its perfect. There is always something inviting to me about leaning into the discomfort. It means there is another lesson yet unlearned, and that means, I am in for a treat! It means growth! An epiphany! A kick in the ass.
But tonight. I just needed to let it out.
Tonight. I got it. And I want you to get it too!!
Get it? Got it?
Now get on with your life already, and stop letting the past (whether its 5 years ago, or when you were 5 years old, or 5 minutes ago) get in the way of your NOW!
LOVEEEE. BIG. LOVE.