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This is real life…

An amazing post by my friend Jamie Tworkowski for TWLOHA: 



  • Posted on: 11 August 2014
  • By: Jamie Tworkowski

If you feel too much, there’s still a place for you here. 

If you feel too much, don’t go. 

If this world is too painful, stop and rest.

It’s okay to stop and rest.

If you need a break, it’s okay to say you need a break. 

This life - it’s not a contest, not a race, not a performance, not a thing that you win. 

It’s okay to slow down. 

You are here for more than grades, more than a job, more than a promotion, more than keeping up, more than getting by. 

This life is not about status or opinion or appearance. 

You don’t have to fake it. 

You do not have to fake it. 

Other people feel this way too. 

If your heart is broken, it’s okay to say your heart is broken. 

If you feel stuck, it’s okay to say you feel stuck. 

If you can’t let go, it’s okay to say you can’t let go. 

You are not alone in these places. 

Other people feel how you feel. 

You are more than just your pain. You are more than wounds, more than drugs, more than death and silence. 

There is still some time to be surprised. 

There is still some time to ask for help. 

There is still some time to start again. 

There is still some time for love to find you.

It’s not too late. 

You’re not alone. 

It’s okay - whatever you need and however long it takes - it’s okay. 

It’s okay. 

If you feel too much, there’s still a place for you here. 

If you feel too much, don’t go. 

There is still some time.

This is what I got up to this weekend :) Surfy Surfy Saturday’s w/ TP

This song just put a little skip in my Wednesday step! 

One of my favorite quotes ever…How good is that shiz?
One of my favorite quotes ever…How good is that shiz?

One of my favorite quotes ever…How good is that shiz?

Just was transferring one computer to the other, and found a bunch of live tracks. Haven’t played this one in years, makes me want to go back on tour :) Enjoy! xo


I met Tricia years ago, backstage at a show in SD. It was her birthday now that I think about, and in true Tricia fashion she was racing all around -taking care of her crew, and keeping things on track. I’m not even sure how we came to be the good friends we are today, I suppose like most good things, it was just meant to be :)


Over the years, we have laughed, cried, cooked, stretched, walked, talked and pretty much everything else in between. For a short period of time she even lived with me, my only roommate ever. It was a most delightful time of green shakes (that most always ended up in a splatter across the wall or floor), lots of delicious food, and great conversations. She’s a giver, a lover, and one of the greatest, most loyal friends I have ever known.

I’ve watched her go from running sound boards, to creating her role as a “Joylogist”. She always got her hands on something awesome, whether it be kelp noodles, a yoga mat, or your back, while she wraps a warm hug around you. She’s always taking notes, and has always got about a zillion cool ideas swirling around in that brain of hers.

I have been inspired by Tricia since the day I met her. If I could describe her in 1 word, it would be: Real.

We would all love it to appear like our lives are great all the time. Like everything is just rainbows and unicorns all day long. But truth is, we all got shit. The president has shit,  Beyoncé has shit (Did you know when you type in Beyoncé to your phone, Siri actually knows to capitalize it & put an accent mark over the e? WTF?!), the mailman has shit, the homeless guy on the corner has shit, the prom queen, the popular kid, you, me, your mom, dad, brother, sister, best friend… We all have shit we are dealing with. It’s just what happens when you collect years and live life. Tricia is probably one of the few people I know that actually calls her shit out (and enjoys it!), in front of people,oh, and she will call you out too! I always end up laughing to myself when I text with her.

For example she challenged me to write a blog about “Owning my awesome”. Of course! I would love to! But, “I’m so busy”, “I’m making bracelets”, “I’m recording”, “I’m watching bachelorette with my fiancé”, I AM TOTALLY MAKING EXCUSES… and I know it. Ha. So I tell her, “Yes, I will get on it, I promise.” - and I don’t want to make excuses, (but I’m going to go ahead and make some anyways), and I can hear her in my head saying something about excuses, and I’m pretty sure if I logged into twitter I would come across a little quote like this:


But that’s the beauty of being friends with this beauty. She’s like a mirror. She continues to inspire me, to take responsibility, to love, to live, to eat healthy, to stay sassy, to vent, and rant, forgive, let go, shake it off, sweat it out, and I think probably because of her, I can finally say out loud: I AM NOT PERFECT & I DONT WANT TO BE!

But I am interested in BEING. Being aware, taking responsibility and understanding myself and why I am the way I am, and why I get hung up on shit from the past, or why I am sensitive to certain things… and how to be ok with all these things and how to grow to be a more kind, nicer compassionate person as a result.

As with anything, it just takes practice.

How do we get to a place where we are ok just being? Where we see the light at the end of the tunnel, rather than want to beat ourselves up and let our crap get the best of us?

It’s like ok…
We get angry, we talk shit, how can we be more compassionate towards people? Our hearts get broken, what can we learn from it? Our boss pisses us off, how do we deal with it? You hate traffic? How can you practice patience? Your day is a train wreck? How can you turn it around?

Tricia is usually the person I can call when I need to vent, when I know I’m in the wrong and I’m trying to figure out how to correct it. When I’m really trying to take responsibility and I know I have fucked up. Mostly because I know she won’t judge me, she will see big picture, and she won’t automatically just take my side because she is my friend. She will give it to me straight, and I will listen, even if it’s a hard pill to swallow. It’s also the reason I call her when I am psyched! I know I can share things I am pumped about, she wont be jealous, or negative, she will get pumped WITH ME…and vice versa. We have always been each others cheerleaders. 

Tricia owns her awesome. And to me owing your awesome is being ok with you positives + negatives, celebrating your flaws, knowing there are always lessons to be learned, being psyched and showing it when you are kicking ass, supporting your friends, and choosing LOVE.

Because as we all know, even though it may be annoying at times: Love Is Always The Answer.

But sometimes we need a little reminder, right? RIGHT!

Cue my girl Tricia & her genius OWN YOUR AWESOME affirmation deck!

"You are what you think, so why not think awesome thoughts?"

I already bought 10 cause you know these will make the greatest gifts ever! 

I have seen this project go from an idea at lunch to where it is now and I could not be more proud.

Please help in supporting my girl Tricia’s Kickstarter campaign. She’s almost to her goal, and this is my personal invitation for you to be apart of something very special.

I mean, who wouldn’t want one of these decks!?

They are AWESOME, and so are YOU!

How do you own your awesome?
I want to know!


PS. For more things Tricia, check out: